Thursday, May 23, 2013

Pregnancy Hormones and Relationships

Often we hear pregnant moms complain about their spouses. 
Are men really changed when women becomes pregnant or its easier to blame it on the pregnancy hormones?

Pregnancy hormones are blamed for everything from mood swings to acne eruptions. Mehmet Oz, M.D., and Michael Roizen, M.D., explain what these essential chemicals really do

During pregnancy, many of the changes you’re going through are visible—your growing breasts and belly are the most obvious. Others, like a powerful urge to “nest,” you can’t see but can certainly feel. A great number of these changes are due to hormones, powerful chemicals that affect your mind, your body and your pregnancy. Here’s a guide to some of the most important players.
Human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) This hormone stimulates the corpus luteum (the part of the egg follicle left behind in the ovary after ovulation) to produce estrogen and progesterone in the first 10 weeks after conception, until the placental cells can do so themselves. For this reason, it is also the hormone we check in your urine or blood to determine conclusively whether you’re pregnant.
Progesterone This hormone serves the very important role of quieting the uterine muscle so that the fertilized egg can have a safe landing while implanting. Progesterone levels increase throughout pregnancy to help maintain the inner layer of the uterus so it can provide support for the developing fetus. The hormone also creates a tranquilizing effect to protect against stress, one of the reasons pregnant women can handle so much heavy thinking and anxiety. In this way, it also promotes sleep. On the downside, progesterone has been linked to acne breakouts.
Estrogen Increased estrogen, which you may associate with changes (both positive and negative) in your mood andsex drive, also stimulates the growth of your uterus and improves blood flow between the uterus and placenta by enhancing the effect of nitric oxide, a gas that widens blood vessels. Not only does more estrogen mean better blood flow, it also prepares your breasts for milk production by enlarging the milk ducts. Estrogen secretion peaks right before birth and declines afterward.
Relaxin Relaxin does just what you’d think. Most importantly, it relaxes the intrauterine ligaments. Why? Because if flexibility in the fetus’s living quarters isn’t increased, trying to grow a baby in the uterus would be like trying to squeeze a mountain lion into a file cabinet. This hormone also loosens things up a bit down below to ease the baby’s passage through the birth canal. It relaxes the arteries as well, so they can handle pregnancy’s increased blood volume without sending your blood pressure through the roof. The downside is that things you don’t want relaxed are sometimes affected. For instance, what happens when the muscle that prevents stomach acid from creeping back into your esophagus becomes floppy? You got it: heartburn.
Oxytocin Oxytocin is the feel-good hormone that helps us bond with others. In the days and weeks immediately before delivery, many women experience mild euphoria and strong nesting behavior (inexplicably washing walls, baking and so on), and this may be linked to oxytocin as well as to other hormones and steroids. During delivery, huge bursts of oxytocin run through the brain. After delivery, when a woman holds her newborn, she develops what’s called “baby lust,” a chemical reaction that happens when a baby’s pheromones stimulate the production of additional oxytocin—thus augmenting the mother-baby bond. .
>> By Mehmet Oz, M.D., and Michael Roizen, M.D.August/September 2011

Sugar and Spice and Everything Nice!


Had my 5th antenatal check up last weekend and all we did after that was SMILE!

Such an overwhelming news... As Dr Guna did the Ultrasound, he told us that we r expecting a BABY GIRL! The one thing that we have been expecting is finally arriving soon! 

Now we can start looking at pink, ribbons, shoes, dresses, laces, hairbands and everything nice!   

So Many Things & So Little Time

Thing are just overwhelming at this point of time.
With another baby on its way, Lil D's new play school, moving into a new home, trips, family, friends, cars, financials, job hunting, managing the household, packing n wrapping, hospital visits, back to hometown every fourth night, etc....

PHEWWWW!!!! I need to breath some fresh air!!

The only question that pops out in my mind is.... HOW ARE WE GOING TO MANAGE SO MANY ISSUES?
The solution is simple.... Make a list starting from the most important task right now followed by the rest in the same order. Then, work on them accordingly.

I need a break! N that can wait till we settle with the shifting process. Looking forward to Enderong this weekend. Its gonna be a good break although its a short one. Being with friends has never been boring.

Being preggers and juggling between pregnancy n daily chores with the rest is just too much to handle at times. But i think I'm strong enough to handle this as we cannot expect anyone to come forward and help.

Lil D has started his first few classes at the new play school. the first 2 classes were tough for him n me. Guess it takes time to get the hang of it and to accept the separation. As a mom, I can't take the fact that he cries when he is being carried away for classes, but guess those are the little challenges we face as mothers and no one gets to escape. More to come after the school break.


Thursday, January 17, 2013

Yet another miracle...

A little angel is formed in the name of an embryo. 
Soon to be a fetus and then a baby in September!
Hoping for a smooth n healthy pregnancy just like the last one. 

Friday, September 7, 2012

FOUR Years and Going STRONG!!

Today marks 4 years of our marriage. A day to remember and celebrate with joy! 
It Was The Day u held my hand tight and promised that u will never let go of me no matter what. In these 4 years of marriage, we have had real bad moments and loads of wonderful moments; But, you never once let go of my hands till today as you promised and now, Dishanth's too! 
It is a year with lots of improvements as compared to last year. We have learnt the true meaning of 'Two hearts becomes ONE'. As a wife, i couldn't be luckier than having you as my soul-mate.
Life is good today and lets pray to many more happiness in years to come!
CHEERS!!

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

2 Years in JB and Life IS Good!

It's been 2 years since we moved to Johor. We moved here when it was just the 2 of us and now we have an addition. Here we are, 3 as a family!
Life is good back here and we have no intentions of moving back to KL for now. Dishanth is 17 months old now and has started talking his first few words. We feel much better being here as we get the chance to explore new places every now and then.
Exploring Singapore is fun! The best for shopping and recreation. We have Desaru for weekends getaway. It's fun and affordable.
WHY do we need to move back to KL when the money, life and everything else is good back here in JB and SIngapore?? 

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Keep fights in your relationship fair

It's as inevitable as it can be - couples fight. No matter how much we tend to believe that a couple could get through life without arguing in a perfect scenario, it's very often not the case.

People have many differences, and differences can lead to disagreements. If you follow some simple guidelines for fighting fairly, however, you can ensure that you get through fights without creating worse problems in the relationship.

Hit it when it’s hot–don’t let it brew
It’s important to let your loved one know as soon as you can when a problem starts bothering you. The more you let the issue stew inside of you, the angrier that you will get. When you DO decide to talk about something you’ve kept inside, you tend to blow up and be really unfair to your loved one. A good guideline for ensuring that you can address the topic fairly is to not argue about anything that occurred 48 hours ago or earlier. Address the issue as soon as you can, and you stand the best chance of resolving the problem. If your loved one won’t talk to you about the issue, you should request that they set some time aside in the next 24 hours to talk about it. If therelationship is important enough, they will understand and usually will be glad you brought up the issue before it became too big of a problem.

Do not bring up matters from the past 
When you get into a fight with a loved one, do your best to not drag matters from the past into the argument. If you can stick to the topic of what your disagreeing about, feelings are less likely to be hurt and more problems won’t arise. Any problems that you had with the person in the past are prologue when it comes to discussing an issue. Bringing them up will only put your loved one in a defensive mode, clouding the argument.

Do not be distracted
When talking about an issue that needs to be discussed, be sure that there are no distractions in the background to interfere with the mood. Be sure to not only listen to what your loved one has to say, but also be sure to note their body language. This way, you can both understand each others intentions more clearly and will be able to solve the problem more effectively.
One strategy that many couples tend to employ to help ease bad blood is to hold both hands while discussing the problem. This warm setting encourages comfort in both parties, ensuring that you aren’t out to hurt each others feelings.